Tuesday, 17 October 2017

Bum Batha Chenmi Rinzi

Yangki saw the movie ad on the local channel and explained us graciously that the movie was being re-screened upon the public demand. And sad enough she couldn’t remember the name of the movie…hehe. She was explaining that the main character was my favorite male actor which meant Tshering Gyeltshen. Well,Tshering Gyeltshen is one Bhutanese actor whose movie we don’t get to see that frequently. But every time he hits the screen, he never fails his audience with his perfect dosage of acting. This movie is no exception.


So we planned this movie, whose name I am sure that both of my friends still cannot tell properly, Bum Batha Chenmi Rinzi, was a 9 PM show at Lugar theatre starring the most popular female star, Tandin Bidha along with Tshegyel (Tshering Gyeltshen) with the veteran actor Ngidup Dorji. The movie comes in an ancient setting, probably during the time when the powerful local chieftains ruled and executed their powers in their locality. Bum Batha Chenmi Rinzi played by Tandin Bidha and Namgay Phuntsho portrayed by Tshegyel are the two lovebirds hit by the powerful Jala Tenzin Drugyal who is no other than actor and singer Ngidup Dorji. Kinzang Dorji who is also one of the veteran actors in the Bhutanese cinema, popularly known for his character of Rangdol (in Rangdol and Yangdon) is seen in this movie as a supporting cast.

Namgay Phuntsho is a poor but hard working young man while Rinzi comes from a well-to-do family in their village. Rinzi and Namgay have been together since their childhood days and when they become of a marriageable age, Rinzi’s parent marries off their daughter to the power local chieftain Jala Tenzin Drugyal who bears no mercy in executing his own right. And the audiences are made to go through the painful departure of Namgay and Rinzi. As the story climbs the climax, the actor’s perfect expressions with unexpected twists bring out the real flavor.


The movie is loaded with lots of heart breaking dialogues and eye-soaring scenes, traditional norms on slaves and slavery trodden under powers, masculinity those days and of course, the melodic voices (especially of Mam Dechen Pem which I loved the most). “Good wins over evil” as the three hour movie has been tagged with a happy ending. It is a sure package of grand entertainment for a weekend with friends and family.

Tuesday, 8 August 2017

Those buried promises!

18th April 2017

Pema Choki
Everything I had believed to be mine was fake. Nothing was real. His lies had covered up everything making me believe him foolishly.

Tshewang Tobgay
I had been trying my best to gather enough courage from the day I met her to tell her the truth but I failed it all the time. I didn't want her to think she was second in my life. The risk was always heavy to carry.

Pema Choki
It took me a whole week to talk and convince my parents about the man I loved and chose to be my partner for life: Tshewang Tobgay. They finally consented me to marry him this morning. I was dancing in delight as I passed on this wonderful news to him.

Tshewang Tobgay
She finally answered to my marriage proposal. She said that she was ready to be my wife. She sounded so sincere with the joys and happiness. She had the least idea that she was to be my second wife, not the first.
I met her a year ago at my workplace. She joined in my office as my junior. For me, it was the love at first sight. I couldn’t even give a proper judgement about her that I was in love with her. At first she judged me flirty and didn’t respond. As I grew consistent in poking her, she demanded time so that she could think. And while all these, I could hardly think of browsing my painful history for her reference.

Pema Choki
It was towards the beginning of spring last year when this man whom I knew very less proposed me (and was my senior at office) during one of my colleague’s birthday. Since he was little drunk I hardly gave a thought on what he said. But the next day he approached me confessing it was the truth and that he was serious about me. He kept on nagging for a couple of days and I had no other option than to think and provide him a definite answer.

Tshewang Tobgay
We started dating soon. I was knowing her everyday. She owned a very fragile heart that would be grieving even if a stranger gave a dissatisfied look to her without even knowing if that one was for her or not. I was determined not to take any risk for her fragile heart by digging up my past which I had forever buried into my memories. All that mattered to me was Pema and our future together. I wanted to make her my future. I wanted to make her my wife. So I proceeded on with the marriage proposal last weekend while we visited the scared Paro Kyichu Lhakhang.

Pema Choki
Tshewang suddenly asked me to accompany him to offer butter lamps at Kyichu Lhakhang last Sunday. He just told me that he wanted to pray to the future Buddha- Jow Jampa for a prosperous future for the both of us. Once there, I fell in love with the blooming spring flowers outside the Lhakhang premises and I immediately asked him to take my photographs with that exotic scene behind me. He smiled and clicked some quick snaps and handed me back my phone. When I was done with checking the photographs on my phone, Tshewang was nowhere to be seen. Moments later his photo vibrated on my mobile screen. I received him immediately and before I could say a word, he spoke out, “Will you marry me Pema?” I couldn’t believe my ears. He repeated the same question three times and by then tears had made their way down my cheeks. I couldn’t answer him and within no time he reached me from back and gave me the warmest back hug.

Tshewang Tobgay
I was 100% sure that she would say a yes to my proposal and as expected it was a yes from her. But...this is a fashion with Bhutanese girls that they would firstly seek the permission from their parents  and then only give a finalized answer. So it took her a week to talk to her parents about me and our relationship. She had readied herself and her family for our marriage and future together. Just when things were getting to the point, my past cast it’s shadows.

Pema Choki
There was no question of believing what that woman told me this afternoon because I knew that he was never married and have not even mentioned to me if he had. The woman by the name Tshering Choden pointed to her 5 year old son and told me if he didn’t look like Tshewang. I closed my eyes because I believed him more than anyone else. But moments later I was proved wrong as I saw the guilt in his eyes when he faced me and Tshering Choden together. He couldn’t meet my gaze at all. He fell short of word and there was no explanation from him. I was to collapse seeing my man in a condition filled with guilt resulted from his lies.

Tshewang Tobgay
I couldn’t believe my past came and ruined my future. Words were hard to form as I thundered into thousands thoughts when a 5 year old claimed me as his father. All these years I didn’t know I had a son. My ex wife Tshering whom I have separated years ago brought up my baby (as she claimed) alone and now she had brought him to me as he wished to see his father. When did I become a father? How I didn’t know this? Tshering went on with her justification that she wanted to be the single parent for her son as she neither wanted to get back to me nor bring in a step father to her little son.

Pema Choki
It’s funny! I mean the surprise was really good and it seriously knocked me to the ground. So this was it. I have been played well. Tshering and Tobgay went on with their talks about the child (their kid) where their history was re winded several times and how everything landed up the way things are. I had then stepped off from their way. It was extremely hard but I have no other option.

Tshewang Tobgay
Upon inquiring a lot, I had to face and accept the ultimate truth that I was a father to a kid and I bore responsibilities towards him. Being his father meant sacrificing so many things including Pema. Her level of self respect didn't permit her to marry a kid's father and become a step mother. It was me, not my son or my past who caused the damage as I disappointed her in telling my past.
I miss her so much and I know she too miss me but we have been barred. We both have been drawn towards our own lives. I decided to take up the responsibility of my son despite my ex-wife's reluctance because he was my son, my responsibility.

After seven months...
Pema Choki
Months have passed now and things are much more normalized. I am feeling happy today. I met Tshewang and his cute son in the market and they both looked so good and happy together. The decision I and Tshewang had made to separate for his son's happiness yielded fruit. May god bless this father and son always.

Tshewang Tobgay
I  saw and met Pema after such a long time today. She left the office few weeks after we separated and then I hardly knew where she was. Now I can say she is doing fine and happy too. I hope and pray she find (or may be already found) a man with more courage to love and tell her the truth every time and be blessed with happiness always.